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A Beginner’s Guide to Relaxing your hair

Over the weekend I did something I had never done, relaxing my own hair. I know, it’s not really a big deal in the grand scheme of things. However, prior to this weekend, there had never been a need to do this myself.

On the 15th of September 2019, I left my home country, Nigeria to the Republic of Mauritius, to start my degree in law. This meant there would be some changes I needed to adjust to, I was expecting some in fact. What I wasn’t expecting was the unavailability of so many things, things I had considered basic, one of them being hair saloons catering to an African hair.

This meant that hairstylists that are so readily available at home are not here. The tedious task involved in searching for an expert who could braid my hair aloneπŸ˜’, let’s just say it has been overwhelming.

Now I was faced with a dilemma, my hair was ‘due’, there was the existence of a lot of natural undergrowth. This won’t be a problem if my intention was to maintain a virgin hair(free from chemicals), which I definitely wasn’t trying to doπŸ˜’.

One morning I had an ‘aha’ moment, “why don’t I relax my self, I have seen how it’s done,it shouldn’t be too difficult right?”.

Well, yes I was successful in doing this and I’m going to share with you my personal relaxing journey.

The first thing was to purchase a relaxer. After searching through the market in Port Louis, the country’s capital, for a relaxer, (a story of how I was able to find one, is for another day) I finally found one. It’s called, sofn’free, made in South Africa. This was a first time using this as well, I was sceptical about it. Turns out there was no need to be, this is an amazing relaxer, regardless of your hair texture. I’m recommending it.

Next step, I proceeded to watch some Youtube videos to see how it’s done. After watching a few,honestly just two, I felt I had gotten a hang of it. I was so wrong.πŸ˜†


From creating wrong sections of my hair to bits of relaxer finding its way into my eyes, it wasn’t an easy experience. However, I enjoyed every bit

To help you get started, these are the few things you should know;

  • It wouldn’t be easy the first time. I watched a few videos, after seeing how easy they project it to be, i felt that I could handle it. The truth is the ease in which an expert would do it can’t be compared to you.
  • Follow all the rules written down. What is the exact measurement. I didn’t think it was important, till later. The measurement needed for a previously relaxed hair was different from those just starting out. I was using the latter.
  • Stand in front of a mirror. So obvious, I know. Yet I started out thinking I could wing it, that didn’t work. It was after making a mess of the first section I moved to use a mirror.
  • Have all the tools you would need laid out within easy reach. When you start applying the relaxer your hands/gloves would be covered, that won’t be the best time to look for a comb you need.
  • Be prepared to not stick with the method you have seen. I couldn’t recreate the sections suggested. Midway I gave up and focused on getting the relaxer in every part of my hair. When you see this happening, just relax and laugh about it. The end result is all that matters right.😌

After ensuring I got the relaxer to all parts of my hair, it was the waiting time. When you have the help of a hairstylist monitoring the time for you it is easier. When you are applying it your self, you are left to figure out how much time is needed. The recommended time is between 5minutes to 20minutes, depending on your hair texture. This is to avoid burning the scalp yet ensuring your hair gets relaxed.

The waiting period

After about 10mins of trying to withstand the pain, it was time to wash it off. Result? It relaxed perfectly well😌

Proud of myself.

Would I repeat this again, yes I would, most definitely. πŸ˜…

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